Megan Time!

You don't realise what it feels like to be stood up until it actually happens to you. Surprisingly, I've been stood up twice this year. Once in January and the second time was this month. The weird thing out of all of it was it wasn't my idea to meet up for a date, it was actually they're idea so to be stood up just felt weird because I couldn't really explain why it happened. Even the second time it happened, that was supposed to be a first date which was arranged the day before so it was very confusing to turn up for a date and he never showed up. Didn't even send a message. Just never turned up. It almost feels like the reason I've been stood up is because of me as it's happened twice to me this year and I'm still wondering why it happened. Both times we seemed to get along fine and the conversation flowed. Nothing happened to suggest why they would stand me up. I should also point out that it was two separate guys. Not the same guy because otherw...

As someone who has used dating apps in the past, I've picked up a few things along the way about what you should and shouldn't do on them. Granted I'm still single to this day but I've met people previously on dating apps and it started off well. I thought I'd share some useful tips on the dos and don'ts of online dating. Let's get started. Do keep it real Be yourself and share your interests. The important thing when it comes to online dating is to be yourself and don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Sharing your interests and hobbies may intrigue people to want to talk to you because it shows you care about things and also they might have the same interests as you so you’ve got something to talk about. Plus it’s easier if you just be yourself. Don’t share too much personal info  That goes without saying by keeping it real but don’t share too much personal info. I never share where I work because the last thing you want is someone from a dating app track...

Do you ever have days when you find yourself on your own? Cause I do. As I'm slowly near thirty, I realise I realise I don't have a solid friendship group. My only group chat is family or work. I'm not constantly meeting up with people or chatting to people. I could probably go all day without receiving a message. Now I'm not writing this for pity or for people to feel sorry for me. In fact this has been my reality for a few years now. I've become so used to being on my own that I enjoy it. I can go to the cinema, a cafe or restaurant on my own and not feel ashamed. In fact it's a liberty. You have this freedom of choosing what to eat and watch and not care if it bothers anyone.Plus you can just be in your own world. I listen to an audiobook or watch a video to keep me occupied. It's just a nice feeling. Would I prefer to be spending time with a friend, family member or even a potential partner? Yeah, that would be nice. I know that I can also find enjoyment...

Wishing all my reader's a lovely Valentine's Day. Whether you're happy in love or single and ready to mingle or just don't really care. I hope this day is a happy one for you and filled with lots of love. Whether that's love from yourself, a partner, family or friends. I hope you're having a wonderful day. I'm spending the day with some movies in the background while I work on a project. I've decided to get back into scrapbooking again so I thought I'd follow my own advice from last week's post and work on a project today. I'm having a lot of fun because I love being creative and I'm keeping myself entertained. I'm thinking of having curry for dinner so that's going to be nice.  If you're wondering what to do today then I have a post from last week that I'll leave a link down below. It's meant for single people but it does have ideas on what to do for everyone whether you're single, in a couple, hanging out with fr...

Valentine's Day is a week away and once again I find myself single on it. I don't mind because I've gotten so used to the single life that I wouldn't even know what to do if I had a man in my life. I'm not going to spend the day moping around, wishing I had someone to spend it. The day is about love and there is no better love than self love. I thought I'd share some of my ideas on how you can spend Valentine's Day when you're free and single. Let's get started. 1. Movie Day Go all out with a movie day. Get some cosy pyjamas for the occasion. Have a nice set up with all the cushions, blankets whether it's on your bed or the sofa. Pick out some of your favourite movies. The ones that you can't help but love or if you're in the mood. Binge watch a series you love or something you've never seen but always wanted to see. Then of course go all out with snacks like popcorn, nachos, chocolate or whatever you like. Pretend you're at the c...

Have you ever had a really bad day? To the point you think you've hit rock bottom because that's what happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Long story short, I got stood up and it hurt. I could have hid under the covers and hid from the world. Instead, I decided to have a day to myself. Get my independence back so that's what I did. I took a train into town because I knew I needed to get out of the house. My first stop was breakfast. I was going to go to a cafe but it was really busy so instead I went to Starbucks and had a bacon roll with a Caramel Macchiato. I was listening to Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets while enjoying my breakfast but then decided to catch up on Eastenders because I like to keep myself entertained when I'm eating on my own. The earphones never come off. While watching Eastenders, I got my notebook out and decided I was going to write this post. I knew I wanted to get some writing done and was inspired by how I was feeling in the moment. I...

Finally we made it to the second month of the year. January always feels like a month that just never ends. Then we get to the shortest month of the year which is February with only twenty eight days. Then the year will just fly by. This month is supposed to be the month of love but sadly for me. I think I'm spending Valentine's Day once again alone. I nearly thought there might be a different outcome but I was forgotten about so it's just me again. I've spent the majority of Valentine's Day alone anyway. There was only one time that I wasn't alone and obviously that worked out great. It's just annoying when you go around the shops and you see these Valentine's gifts and you kind of wanna be like, what about the single people. Where's our day? We just get a birthday and that's it but everyone gets one of those so it's not really that special.  Anyway, Valentine's Day aside. I'm actually going to Cardiff to watch Wales vs Ireland for t...

This time of year can be hard for some of us. Especially as we're coming up to Christmas then there's New Year. People will be celebrating their first Christmas as a couple. There'll be engagements, baby announcements, celebrating getting their first home together. Even just having someone special to celebrate Christmas and New Years with. Personally, I've never bought a Christmas present for a partner or even shared a New Year's kiss with anyone. I don't know if that makes me lucky or not that I still have that milestone to achieve but it does bring you down. Especially when there's movies like The Holiday and Love Actually to remind you how single you really are.  I did have a small hope when I went for drinks with someone two months ago that this year might be different. Sadly I think I fell at the first hurdle and I may have even lost my chance at anything happening but I haven't given up hope because you never know what can happen, although probably...

The single life is inevitable. I've been single for over a year and have been single for many years now that I consider myself to be an expert at it. It can be rough but also quite enlightening and especially when you discover how to enjoy life while being single then you may find it something you don't want to change anytime soon. I thought I'd share my tips on how to be single and still live a happy life. Let's get started.  1. Learn to be independent Something I learned back in my uni days was if I wanted to do something, I should just do it. No matter if I was with people or on my own. It was actually so fulfilling after feeling lonely and getting a bad case of FOMO. I decided to plan something to do on my own. That's when I took a trip to the Trafford Centre and not only that but I decided to also brave going to the cinema on my own. I couldn't quite believe I was doing it but I did and honestly it was the best decision because I discovered a love of going ...

Being single for so many years has its perks but also its downsides too. Being single for so long I do sometimes wonder what it would be like if I did have someone in my life I could be with. Yet, you realise you live on those what ifs because one you're not close to actually finding someone anytime soon but relying on your imaging on what the perfect relationship could be like may end up in disappointment if it actually happens. I've thought about this through my exes. I had a lot of high hopes for them, I hoped it would become something more. I thought if I was eager they might want me and I guess I was wrong.  There was one guy I was seeing about two years ago. It was very spontaneous, instead of the man coming to me. I went to him. I know, there were a lot of red flags for doing this but I was feeling brave and he actually seemed decent. To be fair, he was really sweet. It felt natural talking to him. We just ended up going for a drive and talking. We then went back to his ...

As someone who has been single for a while now and only experienced my first official relationship last year which only lasted for a few months, I can't help but wonder what my dream man would be like.  Now for obvious reasons, I know this won't be strictly accurate but one can hope that the man I fall in love with will have some of these qualities.  For starters, I just want a man who is caring. Who cares not just about the big things but also the little things. Asks me about my day, my life, my ambitions, my plans for the future and actually cares about the responses. I also want a man that just cares about how I feel and respects it because I would do the same for him. I see it as an equal partnership. I care about him and he cares about me. That's the main thing.  I also want a man who will actually make the effort and not just use me. I want one that wants to hang out but also wants to go on dates. Someone who makes the effort to message and call me or even just let ...

What does independence mean to you? When you're an adult, you're officially becoming independent because you have to learn how the real world works. When you're in school and university, the world is like a bubble. You kind of still have some authority figures in your life. Afterwards though, you have to work things out for yourself and realise it's on you to get things sorted. Things like finding a job, working out where you're going to live, paying bills and you have to do most of these things on your own. I'm quite lucky because I'm 27 years old and I'm currently living at home because my financial situation won't be enough to live on my own. That's okay because most adults in their twenties live at home because they can't afford rent, mortgages and bills etc. Of course we're at home, saving to eventually move out but at least we're living comfortably. I'm lucky that going to university, I've had that experience of living o...

It's honestly one of the worst feelings in the world to be ghosted by someone because most of the time nothing even happened. One day they just stop communicating with you and when you try to reignite the conversation again, you often find yourself being left on read. You hope they'll get in touch with you again but they don't even give you a hello, let alone a reason why they've cut ties with you.  I've been ghosted a couple of times and it honestly sucks because everytime I think things are going well and I get hopeful that the other person might actually like me. Then before I know it they do the disappearing act on me with no explanation. I've been down the route where I've almost been desperate to try to keep them in my life by messaging them again and reigniting the conversation. Most of the time though you soon realise they're not interested from the messages they've sent. There seems to be no future, no possibility of meeting up and the conve...

Valentine's Day. The day every single person dreads especially as we've had an entire month of shops selling Valentine's Day things such as heart shaped spoons, candles, cups, bowls etc. I mean how many heart shaped things can you get and it's literally only for once a year as I doubt any couple will go into so much effort for their date nights than on Valentine's day. Of course, I'm saying this as a bitter singleton who's only ever experienced one Valentine's Day where I wasn't single and while I cherished the card and chocolates plus the single rose, it was just another day in the calendar.  Even so, it is a depressing day when you're single because it reminds you that nobody loves you in a romantic way. Even the amount of times you've tried to find someone, they've all failed after five months. Seriously, I have yet to find myself dating anyone longer than five months. It's like the sudden five month mark and everything just falls ...

As someone who has spent the majority of my Valentine's Day as a single person. This day can be a cruel reminder of how single you are. That's why the best way to deal with this day is through a distraction. Now if you are like me and work on weekdays then you'll most likely be working on this day. While work is a good distraction, it's a bit depressing. That's why I thought I'd share some ideas on what you can do on Valentine's Day either after work or before work and if you're lucky enough to have a day off on this day then here are a few things that you can do on Valentine's Day as a single person.  Plan a solo day trip Honestly something I love to do is go on solo day trips whether it's to a town or city or even just to a shopping centre. I love it especially if I have to travel to get there whether it's taking the train or a bus there. One of my fondest memories was when I was in university and I felt a bit down so I decided to go on a d...

I was lucky enough to experience my first ever relationship this year and honestly, it was amazing and everything I hoped for. Sadly though things didn’t work out and that’s okay. Sometimes things happen and we just need to move forward. It made me realise though that I’m quite happy in myself and have grown a lot over the years of being single. It’s made me learn the art of self-love and that it doesn’t matter if you have a partner or not as long as you love yourself. I definitely do love myself and the person I am. Granted there are numerous faults and I’ve been through a lot which have changed my perspective on things but overall, I’m quite glad with the person I am. I have a big heart, a good sense of humour and I’m just nice, granted I can be sarcastic and maybe just a little bit weird but that’s just a part of who I am. There are some things I’d change about myself like my weight but I know one day when I find the motivation from somewhere I will do it and be a happy, healthy bei...

Honestly, I've been single for many years and of course I've dated guys in the past. In fact this year, I got to experience my first boyfriend which is honestly an achievement because all the guys I dated in the past never wanted anything serious or just kept it very casual to the point where I sometimes question did it even happen? Are they even an ex? Anyway, I got to experience my very first official relationship for five happy months until it came to a sudden end. It sucks but that's life. I'm now constantly being reminded by other people that he wasn't the one for you or you'll find someone better and my personal favourite is there are plenty of fish in the same. I'm just going to say it right now, there's not plenty of fish out there. Majority of the fish want to keep it casual and the rest just completely ignore you and go for the easier targets.  Anyway, I've been single since May and it's got me thinking about whether I should go back to...

Yesterday, I talked about if I will ever find love and so I thought it was a good time to make a post about the art of self-love. It's really important to make sure that you are taking good care of yourself and love yourself. We are all beautiful human beings and all unique in so many different ways. Not one of us is the same as the other as we all have different appearances, personalities, interests and history. The best way to find love is to first love yourself and I want to share a few habits you can include in your life in order to learn the art of self-love. 1. Be Yourself Honestly, you are a beautiful person. The easiest thing you can do in your life is be yourself. It's so much harder to be somebody you're not, whether that's trying to copy someone's personality or appearance on a daily basis. That's too much effort to do all the time and it's also not good for you as much as you're losing the person that you are. My biggest tip when it comes to ...