Megan Time!

You don't realise what it feels like to be stood up until it actually happens to you. Surprisingly, I've been stood up twice this year. Once in January and the second time was this month. The weird thing out of all of it was it wasn't my idea to meet up for a date, it was actually they're idea so to be stood up just felt weird because I couldn't really explain why it happened. Even the second time it happened, that was supposed to be a first date which was arranged the day before so it was very confusing to turn up for a date and he never showed up. Didn't even send a message. Just never turned up. It almost feels like the reason I've been stood up is because of me as it's happened twice to me this year and I'm still wondering why it happened. Both times we seemed to get along fine and the conversation flowed. Nothing happened to suggest why they would stand me up. I should also point out that it was two separate guys. Not the same guy because otherw...

As someone who has used dating apps in the past, I've picked up a few things along the way about what you should and shouldn't do on them. Granted I'm still single to this day but I've met people previously on dating apps and it started off well. I thought I'd share some useful tips on the dos and don'ts of online dating. Let's get started. Do keep it real Be yourself and share your interests. The important thing when it comes to online dating is to be yourself and don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Sharing your interests and hobbies may intrigue people to want to talk to you because it shows you care about things and also they might have the same interests as you so you’ve got something to talk about. Plus it’s easier if you just be yourself. Don’t share too much personal info  That goes without saying by keeping it real but don’t share too much personal info. I never share where I work because the last thing you want is someone from a dating app track...

The single life is inevitable. I've been single for over a year and have been single for many years now that I consider myself to be an expert at it. It can be rough but also quite enlightening and especially when you discover how to enjoy life while being single then you may find it something you don't want to change anytime soon. I thought I'd share my tips on how to be single and still live a happy life. Let's get started.  1. Learn to be independent Something I learned back in my uni days was if I wanted to do something, I should just do it. No matter if I was with people or on my own. It was actually so fulfilling after feeling lonely and getting a bad case of FOMO. I decided to plan something to do on my own. That's when I took a trip to the Trafford Centre and not only that but I decided to also brave going to the cinema on my own. I couldn't quite believe I was doing it but I did and honestly it was the best decision because I discovered a love of going ...

Today's photo of the day is Morning. This was on Bank Holiday Monday morning, the festival was over and I was just enjoying a coffee while watching the sun rise. It was quite content and peaceful. It was still pretty early as not many people had got up. Probably trying to get as much sleep as possible before they have to start packing the tent away. It's amazing how quickly it goes. You spend all your time preparing for the festival, buying things for it and then before you know it you're packing it all away again for another year.  This festival actually made me do a lot of thinking and I realised, I've only ever been to the festival with my mum and her friend. I've never actually been with any actual friends or even a partner. I sometimes get envious of people that have big groups they can hang out with but at the same time I'd rather just one person that was either my friend or partner I could hang out with at the festival. It would be nice and I hope maybe o...

For the sixteenth photo, it's flowers. Who doesn't love getting flowers? My favourite flowers are red roses so I was beyond grateful that one of my customers from my previous job gifted me these beautiful roses. It was so unexpected and she gave all the staff roses which were so lovely.  I don't often get flowers, the only time I get flowers is if I buy them for myself on Valentine's Day. I've only ever received one bouquet of flowers from a partner so that tells you the kind of guys I date. Although when gifted them to me, I literally had no idea. It's a shame really but we move on. I'm currently not dating anyone at the minute and I'm kind of not in the right mindset either. My last ex made me lose faith in the idea because how quickly someone can go from saying I love you and that you're mine to I want to talk to other women. That's when I knew my worth and realised it was not worth getting my heartbroken over a guy that could easily change hi...

It's honestly one of the worst feelings in the world to be ghosted by someone because most of the time nothing even happened. One day they just stop communicating with you and when you try to reignite the conversation again, you often find yourself being left on read. You hope they'll get in touch with you again but they don't even give you a hello, let alone a reason why they've cut ties with you.  I've been ghosted a couple of times and it honestly sucks because everytime I think things are going well and I get hopeful that the other person might actually like me. Then before I know it they do the disappearing act on me with no explanation. I've been down the route where I've almost been desperate to try to keep them in my life by messaging them again and reigniting the conversation. Most of the time though you soon realise they're not interested from the messages they've sent. There seems to be no future, no possibility of meeting up and the conve...

I was lucky enough to experience my first ever relationship this year and honestly, it was amazing and everything I hoped for. Sadly though things didn’t work out and that’s okay. Sometimes things happen and we just need to move forward. It made me realise though that I’m quite happy in myself and have grown a lot over the years of being single. It’s made me learn the art of self-love and that it doesn’t matter if you have a partner or not as long as you love yourself. I definitely do love myself and the person I am. Granted there are numerous faults and I’ve been through a lot which have changed my perspective on things but overall, I’m quite glad with the person I am. I have a big heart, a good sense of humour and I’m just nice, granted I can be sarcastic and maybe just a little bit weird but that’s just a part of who I am. There are some things I’d change about myself like my weight but I know one day when I find the motivation from somewhere I will do it and be a happy, healthy bei...

Honestly, I've been single for many years and of course I've dated guys in the past. In fact this year, I got to experience my first boyfriend which is honestly an achievement because all the guys I dated in the past never wanted anything serious or just kept it very casual to the point where I sometimes question did it even happen? Are they even an ex? Anyway, I got to experience my very first official relationship for five happy months until it came to a sudden end. It sucks but that's life. I'm now constantly being reminded by other people that he wasn't the one for you or you'll find someone better and my personal favourite is there are plenty of fish in the same. I'm just going to say it right now, there's not plenty of fish out there. Majority of the fish want to keep it casual and the rest just completely ignore you and go for the easier targets.  Anyway, I've been single since May and it's got me thinking about whether I should go back to...

This year something new happened to me. It all began when I decided to try online dating again and I didn't really think too much of it. Eventually I met this guy and after talking for a month we met up then things just grew from there. Before you know it, we became officially boyfriend and girlfriend which if you've read my blog in the past will know is a huge milestone because I've never had a boyfriend. I've dated guys in the past but it never led to anything serious. Now from the title you may be able to tell that it didn't end well because we eventually parted ways. Now I'm not going to spill the tea as to why because that's between me and him but I will say it did affect me because I did catch feelings for him. Plus it was a weird feeling to go from talking to someone everyday and seeing them almost every week to nothing is a bit of a rollercoaster of emotion. It took me a bit of time to even get over it as sometimes the emotion just hit me and I felt ...

As a twenty six year old, it's very hard to ignore the fact that the majority of the people around my age are starting to get engaged, get married and have kids. Facebook is the worst place because when you are friends with a lot of people you went to school with then it feels like every other month or so they make that inevitable post of 'We're Engaged!' or 'We Said I Do!' or 'We're Pregnant!' When you see posts like that you can't help but reflect on your own life and the fact that you've never experienced any of these things yet. Not that it's an end goal of life. In fact those things are very optional in life. Some people don't want to have kids. Some people don't want to be married. Yet it's still a view and a question that people get asked about especially if you're still single or the worst time to get asked is when you've only just started a new relationship and one of the questions you get asked is 'When a...

I thought I'd take this post as a little moment to have a catch up with guys as I have been absent these past four months and honestly so much has happened that I'm not really sure where to begin but I'll give it a go. I switched jobs and have gone for a complete career change. Now for privacy reasons, I'm not going to say where I actually work but let's just say it's not retail. Honestly though, I enjoyed working in retail and it was great but sometimes like with most jobs you do get some bad days. It has made me appreciate everyone working in customer service because they are just trying to earn a living and sometimes things go wrong. So be kind to retail workers. In fact, all customer service roles because that is a person behind that counter who is just trying to earn a living and you have no idea what they're going through. So before you make a comment saying "Oh they could have cheered up a bit" or "They are sitting there doing nothing....

I thought I'd do a bit of reflection on this year and everything I'm grateful for because we're getting closer and closer to the end of the year so why not do a little list of all the things that I'm grateful for this year. 1. Taking more chances This year I did something a little crazy and met a guy online. I took a huge risk after speaking for a couple of weeks and Snapchatting each other, I decided to catch a train to meet up with him. I know it was a big risk, after watching a lot of true crime recently that online dating can be a major factor with crime with things like catfishing and possibly getting murdered just to name a few. However, I thought why not just go for it because you'll never really know unless you try. Anyway, I met up with him and we had a nice time together and honestly, it was the first time in a long time I felt good about someone and thought that for once things might work out in the long run. Sadly for me they didn't as after a few mo...

Another year and you find yourself still single at Christmas. One positive of that is one less person to buy for. Unfortunately, when you think of most Christmas movies like The Holiday and Elf it usually has a lot of romance in it and the couples get together living happily ever after in their relationships. I've come to realise there's not really a lot of Christmas movies that represent the single people who don't really have a significant other to spend Christmas with. I mean I'm someone who has yet to experience my first relationship so I know it's probably going to be a long time before I even have a significant other to spend Christmas with or if I ever will.  I don't want to bring the mood down on this post because we can all agree not being in a relationship at Christmas time is very lonely and sad. However, there is not a lot we can do about it unless you're one of those people frantically swiping right on potential partners with the hopes that one ...

Here we are again with a second part of dating pet peeves. I didn't think it could be any worse than the first part but oh boy. Do I have some more pet peeves when it comes to online dating?  1. They say they want something long term but make zero effort to make it happen Here's the thing. If you're going into online dating not hoping to find your significant other then why are you online dating? Seriously, why. Just to have a bit of fun and mess around with someone's feelings. That's something that really grinds my gears about online dating but even more so is when they say they're hoping for something long term and in the beginning they give you hope. You're messaging and talking everyday. Arranging to meet for dates. Yet after a while the effort slowly slips and you find yourself putting more effort then they are. Whether it's you travelling to them but never the other way around. You suggest hanging out and meeting up. Suddenly you start to notice th...

Yeah, I'm still here. Still single. I've come to accept this reality. I accepted it a long time ago, but this year I had hoped that everything would change. I was wrong though unfortunately. Sometimes there are just too many red flags that you can no longer ignore and suddenly realise that he doesn't see you in that way. It's kind of funny because when you're younger you think by the age of twenty five, you'll find your future husband and be settling down but that's not the case for me. To be honest I don't even know if by the time I get to thirty I will have had a boyfriend. Maybe that's a record. Who knows? It's just kind of sad because you realise that people just give up on you like you're nothing, but the sad thing is you'd never do that to them. It's their loss at the end of the day because they've chosen not to be with someone who is loyal and has a big heart. I know one day (maybe) Mr Right will come along and perhaps for ...

As someone who has experienced online dating and never officially having a boyfriend, I'd say I've picked up on a few red flags when it comes to dating which will be useful to anyone currently dating someone and unsure as to whether they want to make the relationship serious or not. This is just based on my own experience and every relationship is different, but these are just a few little red flags you may want to keep an eye on, just in case.  1. They don't message that often One of the biggest dating/relationship problems is communication. I'm going to admit in the beginning it's like the honeymoon stage where you're messaging each other constantly and can't get enough of it. The phase will soon die down and sometimes it may be either for a good reason or a bad reason. Honestly, if someone was really into you but life hit them in the face with a busy work schedule, they will message you to say they're busy and if they do that means they care because t...